Thursday, October 18, 2018

Our green card red letter days

Getting through a green card application is a special kind of administrative hell. I was going to tell you that the worst of it is the waiting and the wondering, but let's be clear, every stage is awful. From insisting your marriage certificate is real even if the scanner rotated the document by 90 degrees, to hunting down, assembling, and labelling every last bad photo you ever had as a couple, to prepping for an interview by quizzing each other about random relationship facts and figures that most normal couples are allowed to forget, it's all demeaning and degrading, as though my government were punishing me for marrying outside the tribe.

Yesterday, the waiting and wondering closed up when Nicolas opened an envelope. Finally, here is the (photoshopped) fruit of this year's labor:

In case it can help anyone who's still in the dark, or just as a testament to the journey we've taken, here is the run down of our green card red letter days:

mid-December 2017: We begin assembling documents for the I-130 petition submission.

February 3, 2018: Completed I-130 Petition for Alien Relative is prepared, lovingly assembled, and mailed off to the USCIS Texas Service Center, which processes applications from petitioners living in the western half of the US.

February 6, 2018: The Texas Service Center receives our application. (This was our "priority date.")

February 10, 2018: The Texas Service Center notifies us of our application's receipt.

March 22, 2018: We file a K-3 visa application (I-129F) which would enable Nicolas to move to the US while waiting for a response on his CR1 visa (green card for immediate relative of US citizen)

May 21, 2018: Our I-130 petition is approved! On this date, our K-3 visa application is rejected, as is unfortunately standard practice these days. The application was not evaluated while his I-130 was being processed. Once the I-130 was approved, he was no longer eligible for the K-3. With that decision, he officially had to keep waiting outside of the US for the remainder of the green card application process.

July 16, 2018: Our application is assigned a case number with the National Visa Center. We pay the fees immediately and begin assembling documents (and feel like fools for not having anticipated these documents and assembled them ahead of time).

August 7, 2018: We file our documents with the National Visa Center.

August 16, 2018: The National Visa Center notifies us that two of our documents have been rejected and require resubmission.

August 30, 2018: We submit a second filing of documents with the National Visa Center.

September 12, 2018: The National Visa Center approves our documents.

September 26, 2018: The US Embassy in France receives our application and assigns Nicolas an interview date: October 3!

October 3, 2018: Nicolas interviews at the embassy and his visa application is approved!

October 17, 2018: Nicolas's passport, which was taken at the end of his interview, is returned to him with a visa!!

Still to come...

November 30, 2018: Nicolas flies direct from Paris CDG to San Francisco SFO

Several weeks later... Nicolas's green card and social security card will arrive in the mail at our home. Can you believe it, ours? I just can't wait for us to start calling the same place home again.

Sunday, October 7, 2018

A better countdown

The last few pieces of our immigration puzzle fell into place so fast that we hardly had time to build up any anticipation. It was mostly a mad dash of vaccinations, doctor's visits, and medical exams, all of which fell on Nicolas's shoulders. I frantically and rather unhelpfully tried to provide any last minute support that I could from nine time zones away. On Tuesday night, as I got ready for bed, Nicolas dressed to impress. As I tucked myself in, he headed off to the embassy. And as I slept fretfully, he whiled away hours waiting for his turn to get called to the counter for an interview. By the time I'd awoken, after hardly a handful of questions, Nicolas's green card visa application was approved. And then life went on.

This didn't seem right. After months of agony, anxiety, and frustration, how could we just be going about our normal routines? How were we not running to airports and catching the next flights to be together? And how has Nicolas still not had "the talk" with his boss? 

I've struggled to process that, while it's what we've wanted and waited for, the next stage isn't easy either. Nicolas now has to wrap up the life he's rebuilt back in Paris. There are goodbyes to be said and loose ends to be tied. And this time he won't just be hopping in a car and driving around the EU to be with me. While I wanted nothing more than to book Nicolas's flight for the day that his passport gets returned to him in the mail, I had to accept that November 30 was close enough. So now, here's the best countdown we've had since our year of countdowns began: