Monday, February 16, 2026

Another Olympic vacation

The Paris Olympics were such fun that we decided to take another crack at it, this time with more death-defying stunts, a (minor) language barrier, and a whole lot of driving: yes, we were all in for Milan-Cortina 2026, the most geographically spread-out games in history. We booked five different events in five totally different venues, and we (by which I mean Nico) mapped out our route. First stop, Milan for day 1 of the team figure skating competition. But before the games even began, we had another cause for celebration: the night of our arrival marked 8 years since I'd joined Team Neuralink. It's a milestone I hadn't imagined, and also hadn't anticipated celebrating over pizzas and tiramisu in northern Italy. It's nice when life surprises you that way. Sometimes I'm not sure how we got this lucky.

Celebrating Day 1 of our first winter Olympic journey and Year 8 since I joined Team Neuralink.

Booking yourself a morning activity the day after your arrival 9 time zones away from normal is a pretty decent way to combat jet lag. The excitement of the event kept me going. Being in the stadium, seeing the athletes' emotions, joining the crowd - everything I'd loved from Paris 2024 came rushing back. It's such a privilege to get to share these deeply human moments, where people who've given their everything to attain the pinnacle of their sport have their moment; to experience the culmination of years of devotion, extraordinary talent, and unwavering determination; to be a part of their joy and their heartache. I couldn't always understand the judges, but I loved the skaters. My personal favorite? The Canadian ice dance couple - what they may have lacked in the technical precision of the Americans they made up for in heart and bold personality. I left the stadium more inspired to maybe finally start composing my own choreography.

Event #1: Figure skating team event in Milan

We had no time to spare when the event let out: we booked it back, grabbed our things, thanked the hotel staff in my dusted-off Italian, and bee-lined to the airport to pick up our rental car. Next stop: fair Verona, a decent mid-way point to break-up the longest drive of our vacation. The next morning, despite my best efforts to ignore the noisily protesting phone, we showered, dressed, and squeezed in some Italian Renaissance. We even sampled some of the local pastry fare: risino, a tart shell filled with a rice-pudding-esque custard. Not half bad.

A quick stop in fair Verona en route from Milan to Cortina.

The Italian Dolomites welcomed us in good time with easy driving, allowing for a quick nap before heading over to the second host city, Cortina, where we'd booked an evening of luge. The event was an unexpected highlight: we got to wander all around the course, hear the coaches shout as they sent off their athlete, and feel said athletes whoosh past us as shocking speeds. We even tried our hand (or butt) at sliding - unofficially - using icy paths the kids (presumably) had smoothed out as short cuts around the path that hugs the track. I couldn't stop laughing as the announcers referred to athletes as "the Czech guy" or "the Austrian guy" when listing anyone after the competitor currently holding the top position: who even are you if you're ranked third? The mulled wine rounded out the event, before tucking into some typically northern Italian Germanic cuisine for a late dinner en route home in a pub in a small mountain village.

Event #2: Men's luge in Cortina

A luxuriously slow start to the day was finally in the cards the next morning: we'd found an Airbnb half-way between our second and third events, so for once we weren't packing up and checking out. After a round of coffees and traditional Dolomitic jam-filled, powdered-sugar-dusted cookies on our snowy balcony, we were off to Anterselva for the mixed biathlon relay. This event earned the top rating from the both of us: not only was the venue stunning and the excitement of watching the French secure gold after an incredibly neck-in-neck competition, but we were even treated to a surprise party complete with live Austrian band and dancing on table tops before we loaded back up into the absurd daisy-chained series of shuttles that eventually got us back home well after sun down. We capped off the evening with more local fare: spinach and cheese canederli for me - something like vegetarian meatballs - and a semifreddo with pumpkin seeds, vanilla, and cardamom. It should come as no surprise to hear the Italians know their way around the kitchen, even this far north. (My former Sicilian roommate might have a thing or two to say about that.)

Event #3: Mixed biathlon relay in Anterselva

The next morning we hit the route westward bound. En route we swung by Merano for lunch where I discovered pizzoccheri, a hearty buckwheat pasta served with cabbage, potatoes, and loads of melted fontina. The waitress cocked her head when I placed my order, but I couldn't have been more pleased with my discovery of this local delicacy. Not part of any recommended diet plan, but 10/10 would recommend. Round it off with a nice slice of apple strudel, why don't you? It's only respectful to acquaint yourself with the Olympic host country's local culture, right?

Treating ourselves to local cuisine in Merano, driving past typical South Tyrolean architecture, and spotting the headquarters of Forst Brewery, which made an impressive non-alcoholic beer widely available in the region but sadly not sold Stateside.

Next stop: Switzerland. Our final destination for the day was the ski resort town of Livigno, home to the Big Air competition, but local housing was so expensive that we actually crossed the border for a cheaper place to stay. This must be the first time in history that Switzerland has been the economical choice. 

Nico says the secret to being happy is low expectations. That may have been my curse for the Women's Big Air final. Other than skating, I'd been most excited for this one. The town did its best, setting up the nicest fan zone we'd seen so far complete with a giant snowy Olympic rings sculpture and a series of elaborate snack huts where we discovered the bombardino (an Italian response to a hot toddy, you might say?) but the event itself wasn't all it'd cracked up to be. We had to plant ourselves in a single spot and the freezing temperatures rapidly began gnawing into my thoroughly bundled feet. Not even the exuberant chanting from the Team GB fan club, into which we'd somehow planted ourselves, was enough to warm my poor toes. When the event did finally start, we honestly didn't get much of a better experience that the viewers at home - perhaps a worse one at that. The tricks were all happening quite far up in the air, and from our angle we'd miss half the intricacies of the trick, relying on the announcers descriptions and big screen replays to really get a complete understanding of what the heck was going on. After the final competitor landed her last jump (or, in this case, failed to) and medal positions were secured, we packed it in and headed to a bar to defrost rather than riding out the medals ceremony. No regrets re: round two of bombardinos.

Event #4: Women's big air finals in Livigno

We could hardly travel all the way into Switzerland without reserving a day to say hello to the Swiss cohort of Nico's family! The following day was reserved for a visit with Serge. Our rendez-vous was set for the small town of Zuoz, where we hiked in snow, I finally made a (decapitated) snow angel, and we dined on Swiss frittatas, which are apparently a regional specialty. I also finally made the link between the Italian word casa and the French chez, which has always been a head scratcher for me. As we drove through Switzerland, I noticed signs for Chasa so-and-so morph into Chesa so-and-so, and I finally connected the dots. A quick Google search confirmed it: the different dialects of Romantsch (the fourth official language of Switzerland) share the same roots as the aforementioned French and Italian words for home. I was positively tickled - fun fact of the trip for your nerd girl over here.

A half day in Zuoz, Switzerland with Nico's dad Serge

Late that afternoon we crossed back into Italy for the final legs of the journey. We were up in another mountain village that evening in time for the next morning's Nordic Combined, the only Winter Olympic discipline that excludes women. The unseasonably warm weather made for rough conditions for our athletes competing in wet and slushy snow. Still, the guys showed up, and in more than one case it was a family affair. Both Austria and Norway had sent a pair of brothers on each of their respective teams. And one of those Norwegian bros, after a close call in the final lap of the cross-country leg of the competition, catching his ski in a barrier and nearly tripping over, took that extra dose of adrenaline to pull away from the competition and ultimately cross the finish line in first. (Have to wonder how it feels for the other brother who failed to secure a spot on the podium: you make it all the way to the Olympic team and you're still the slacker at the family dinner.) The race was tight until the end, and though it didn't end in a photo-finish-style sprint, the medalists were each within an arm's length or two of each other as they reached the finish line.

Event #5: Nordic Combined in Tesero

En route back to Milan, having successfully navigated the muddy Olympic parking lot that nearly took us out after the event, I learned that my Consumer Advisory Board colleague's almost-sister-in-law (brother's fiancée), who'd been representing the US in women's luge, had landed herself on the podium! This now puts me at one degree of separation from an Olympic medalist and, not gonna lie, I felt pretty proud of myself. (And yes, I know, I have done nothing to earn this misplaced pride. And no, I do not care.)

Our Olympic agenda had come to a close, but the journey was still far from it. I spent the latter half of the journey back to civilization studying up on the scientist I was scheduled to meet with the following morning. And, after 18 years, I was also scheduled for a reunion with my boss from my senior-year internship in Pisa. The next day was a whirlwind of shop talk and catching up and learning all I could about the Swiss/Italian neurotech scene. And I may have walked away with a standing job offer? It's honestly incredibly exciting to start really envisioning what the next chapter will be: this American one has been going on for quite some time now. We are really hoping we're down to the final two-to-three year stretch now.

Highlights from Milan: the Olympic flame, the final French-American ice dance show down we enjoyed from a (somewhat disappointing) Milanese fan zone, the Duomo, the Castello Sforzesco, typically teensy Italian cars, deliciously thick Italian hot chocolates, pasta, and pizza. Not bad for a couple of spare evenings.

Over dinner on our penultimate evening, we caught up with Nico's Paris-based friend Victor, on assignment in Milan with the NY Times. We shared stories and pasta and Italian craft brews until it really was past our respective bed times. After all, Nico had made sure we didn't leave an empty slot in our agenda: our final day was allocated to an adventure off in the medieval town of Bergamo.

I won't lie: I did not have any historical context for this town. Exhausted between the mental strain of Neuralink, the excitement of the Olympics, and the questions as to whether I could see a life for us here in Milan, there wasn't leftover mental bandwidth for Bergamo's Città Alta (the medieval town). The only thing on my to-do list was to down an affogato before the trip came to a close, which I am pleased to report I most certainly did. I also sampled a local polenta-based dessert (not as good as it looked) and dined in a renovated decommissioned church (even better than it looked). We also got in about 1400 feet of elevation gain during our adventures. While the running gear I'd packed for this vacation didn't get put to use, we were doing more than just getting in our steps (and get them in we did, averaging nearly 20k per day!).

Bergamo, on the final day of our Italian Olympic vacation.

Last spring I'd met a guy at our neighborhood dog park who'd excitedly informed me of his plans to attend the Milan Olympics. Me too! I'd exclaimed. Nearly a year later, here we were, ticking off the final agenda item of the vacation: catching up with Luna's dad over pizza and beers in the capital of Italian fashion, swapping stories of our Olympic events and the travails of reaching the various venues. If you thought we'd been adventurous, just consider Alex, who'd decided to pull this off via public transport. Let's just say Alex didn't include sleep as an essential activity during his Olympic vacation.

Our online check-in reminder came too soon. I wasn't ready to head back west, to the land of grind and hard-core and work = life. But something felt a little different as we bid Italy arrivederci. I'd been studying the locals, noticing Milan's dog-friendliness, admiring the evening run clubs that jogged past. I'd been imagining what it might be like to make this place home. I'd been asking Gemini about it. I got the feeling I was flying back to the beginning of the end, like I might just be able to feel the page starting to turn on our American chapter. And yes, there are still some very big years in the States to get through first. But oh, I cannot wait for what comes next. I really wouldn't mind a bit more of la dolce vita.

Wednesday, February 4, 2026

The Edwardian Ball

San Francisco hosted the 25th annual Edwardian Ball this past weekend—Edwardian as in Edward Gorey the fantastical author and illustrator, as opposed to the English era. It was a place for people watching, a host to surreal and interactive art (including animated taxidermy and performances by circus artists I’m starting to recognize!), and an evening for the Burning Man types to enjoy a much cushier setting—the Regency Ballroom. After years of hearing the hype, it was a pleasure to finally gown up and experience the Edwardian Ball first hand.
Edwardian Ball 2026


Wednesday, January 7, 2026

A tropical start to the new year

Our new year has kicked off with a decidedly tropical flare. On the 2nd we jetted off for a few days in Hawaii — Nico's first visit, and more than two decades since my last. We didn't bother planning much in advance, as life has been keeping us on our toes, but we figured things out on the fly and had a decidedly enjoyable five day adventure.

We stayed in Waikiki, a beach neighborhood in Hawaii. On our first full day, we ventured out to Hanauma Bay for snorkling all saw all sorts of exotic fish mere feet from the shore.
The food scene wasn't half bad. As a cacao producer, we found plenty of decadently rich dark chocolate treats. I discovered I am a big fan of salmon belly. And Aloha Beer's In-POG-nito Wit (a witbier with notes of pineapple, orange, and guava) and their furikake crispy rice salmon bombs (oven-roasted miso salmon belly on crispy rice topped with garlic aioli, furikake, teri glaze, and jalapenos) were so good they earned a second visit.
We reserved the rainiest day for a trip to Pearl Harbor, a stop for my history buff of a husband. It was chilling, in the wake of our country's unprovoked invasion into and kidnapping of a foreign leader, to be reminded of just how long it's been since we've been properly on the "just" side of a military conflict.
We ventured across the island to hike at Diamond Head and Makapu'u lighthouse, to visit to the Valley of the Temples Memorial Park (where we saw some of the world's most socialized goldfish), to admire the surfers at Pupukea Beach where the wild chickens entertained us, and to conquer the pineapple maze at the Dole plantation, where we discovered how well dark chocolate pairs with fresh pineapple.
On our final night, we embraced our nature as tourists and hit up a luau. Aiming for something less painfully commercial, we found one where a dance troupe performed traditional dances with costume changes for each of the Polynesian islands. We learned that Tonga is the only Polynesian island kingdom to have never been colonized. And of course, we got a taste of some fire dancing after dark, the perfect way to cap off our brief escape into paradise.

Thursday, January 1, 2026

Guess I'm a resolutions person now

My NYE 2026 look positively sparkled
I've been adamantly anti-resolution. The new year is such an arbitrary time point. Why wait until then to start changing things, exploring new interests, and becoming the person you want to be? But the resolutions I made a year ago worked surprisingly well. I gave myself quarterly check-ins and actually made progress to varying degrees on all of them. I guess that makes me a resolution person now? While I'm not entirely convinced, I won't throw away something effective just to stick to my principles, so here's some thoughts on another year of trying to progress as a human:
  1. Be more present. This is a really hard one to measure or concretely act on, but it's one of my biggest issues. I'm so focused on the next ten steps that I often struggle to experience the moment. I've been to a few parties over the past year that helped me focus on this, but there's a lot of work to do.
  2. Compose a choreography. I followed up on last year's circus fitness goal and am absolutely in shape for this. Unfortunately, it's already looking unlikely my schedule will align to actually perform something this year, but I'd still like to fully compose an act. Still working on picking an apparatus.
  3. Develop some work friendships. I've done a decent job of reconnecting at work, but it can often feel lonely. Towards the latter half of the last year, I began building some connections with mixed success. This year, I'd love to see myself really have a place in the office not based just on my skillset but also my connection with the folks I see on the daily. It would be especially lovely to have some folks who I'd properly call friends even if we no longer share an employer.
They're not exactly as sweeping or ambitious as last year. I suppose I don't really need to find myself as much as I did a year ago. But they're some decent goals for a new year.

Friday, December 26, 2025

The real Christmas

Having ticked off the holiday travels back east over Thanksgiving this year, we were free to enjoy a relaxing holiday on the best coast this year. We'd just warmed back up to hosting with our first games night of 2025 a few weeks prior, and we were on a roll. A quick negotiation with Wolfgang and Steph earned us the Dec. 25 hosting time slot (the real Christmas) to their Christmas Eve. (I still can't get over how some Europeans think Dec. 24 is the day for celebrations.) Steph and Wolfgang hosted the perfect pre-game on Christmas Eve, where we broke out day one of two of our signature non-alcoholic mulled wine. In parallel, our own small guest list slowly expanded as we swallowed up more Christmas orphans until a few hours before we warmed up the oven on Christmas morning. Somehow the mishmash crew of guests came together quite nicely, and our evening rode out until nearly 2am, with one guest claiming our newly freed up guest room for an overnight. We enjoyed such a lovely and warm evening filled with love and zero drama, a proper Christmas-edition Friendsgiving.

Managed a family photo of the fur kiddos, and shot pics from both Steph & Wolfgang's and our meals, but failed to snap a single shot of the wonderful humans who added flavor to our delectable Christmas celebrations.

I'm really loving life in this moment between the hellscape of embryo creation and the reality of parenthood. The buttery smoothness of foie gras with armagnac, the sweet pop of a candied cranberry stolen between elaborate high-fives with an Oakland native, and the crisp effervescence of a non-alcoholic La Chouffe, all swirled up in laughter and a late night with friends: I'd have had a hard time drawing up a better Christmas.

Saturday, December 13, 2025

Understood the assignment

One of my post-fertility-treatment resolutions was to reconnect at work. Yes, that mostly meant diving in deep again, pulling the late nights as needed, and checking back in to the tech. But reconnecting has taken several forms over the year, from my weekly afterwork runs to the company-sponsored charity rides to, over this past month, preparing the most on point holiday party outfit. Theme? Arcade.

In the emotional stew simmering after we'd said goodbye to Chat, I bit off a bit more than I could chew in my first vision: a hand-embroidered, neon arcade-inspired vision in periwinkle trimmed with shimmery magenta, sparkling teal, and glowing yellow. A few weeks in, I accepted defeat and sourced a rich red blank slate to begin holiday inspo 2.0: PacMan edition.

A PacMan dress project for an arcade-themed holiday party

The starting piece, a Poshmark find, was beautiful and made for someone decidedly curvier than myself. I had my work cut out for me if I was going to turn this into my arcade outfit in three weeks’ time. Out came the seam ripper, the fabric scissors, and the collection of matching spools and bobbins It felt good to get in there, rip apart seams, and lose myself between the sewing machine and the fabric and the pins jutting out in odd directions, pricking me as I tugged and stretched and held together the material, willing an idea into a reality.

I pulled off a total resize while awaiting the PacMan ribbon, which shipped just before the Thanksgiving holiday. The trim was fully secured in time for the PacMan pillowcase, which arrived the weekend before the big day. (No other PacMan fabrics were available for sale within the States in sufficient area to cover the lace trim on the bottom of the dress, and international shippers couldn't guarantee delivery in my time window, so the pillowcase was my only way to source PacMan material.) My dress, complete with Velcro-attached PacMan appliqué and cozy brushed fiber PacMan lower tier, was finalized all of three days before it was time to slay.

A PacMan dress, the same muppet fur coat that's made an appearance at every Neuralink holiday party since we took them off-site, and some friends new and old to round off an evening capping off the year I've most belonged at this company since joining nearly 8 years prior.

A year ago, I barely survived an hour at the let-down of a holiday party hosted just a day after my final egg retrieval. I loved the contrast of showing up last night having fully understood the assignment (theme), and with enough work friends to ride out socializing and dancing through the last song of the night. It's not always obvious to find my place in a company where the default employee is a Gen Z white guy just a few years out of his undergrad in engineering. Most days I feel a million years old and, as a fairly effeminate married woman, I can struggle to connect with coworkers. But between the running, the new team, and my reclaimed position as a company cheerleader (the one who's finally making Neuraladies swag happen), I've been feeling like I just might belong at Neuralink.

Monday, December 1, 2025

18 years later

Last time I'd done an Aloia family Thanksgiving, the year was 2007. The next year, I was off in Italy and hosting my first expat extravaganza. Since then, I've picked up several degrees, an extra nationality, some thoroughly stamped passports, a husband, a dog, several cats, and a dream career in neurotechnology. We've also watched the world spiral as the nascent technology called social media brainwashed the world and led to the rise of ultra-right movements across continents. Needless to say, a few things have changed.

The impetus for the grand return? The Black Friday Eagles game. The extra layers and heat pads stuffed into our socks were hardly worth it: not only did the Birds lose, but they did so in record-setting style. The Eagles gave up the most rushing yards of any game in the past decade, and tying for the 9th most rushing yards given up in the entire team franchise history.
Thanksgiving 2025: the Birds, the food, one giant Hindu temple, and an American Hogwarts

The trip back east had its sweeter moments: We toasted Grandpa at our first Thanksgiving without him and played a recording of his (in)famous grace before chowing down around the table that's been hosting Aloia Thanksgiving perhaps as long as I've been missing. We explored America's largest Hindu temple over in Robbinsville, New Jersey. We toured Nico around America's best answer to Hogwarts in Princeton. We trekked up to New York where we squeezed in a meal of real New York pizza chez Sharon before catching our Monday morning flight out of JFK. And, surprisingly enough, we boarded the plane back home without any moments of drama to report, ticking off the obligatory annual holiday season family trip earlier than normal this year.