Saturday, January 25, 2025

A ticket to Texas

I entered the era of Trump 2.0 from deep in the heart of Trump country: Texas. At long last, I scheduled my first trip down to the Austin office. (Okay, no so Trump-y turf.) And honestly? I liked it more that I expected. Admittedly, I didn't get to see much of the city itself: there were some long hours in the office. The converted Hatchet Alley has serious early-day Neuralink vibes, but not just for the worst. Whenever a catered meal arrived, we all clustered along the bar counter and connected, regardless of team. I missed the sort of comradery that came from the scrappy small team dynamic. In between the work hours, I got to enjoy the local circus studio and scoped out the Belgian brew scene. The music poured out of bar after bar, upholding the city's lively reputation. The idea of a potential move really got my wheels turning by the end of the week, though perhaps I'm just getting the itch as I roll into my seventh year in California, officially making it the longest stretch I've ever lived anywhere. It often feels like I'm living someone else's dream: California's fine and all, but I could leave it tomorrow and wouldn't look back. My thirties are looking like a solid investment in a life I'll one day want to live. I wish that day would come already.
Snapshots of a week in Austin: a half-mast flag on a snowy inauguration day despite Trump's orders, a drink at Mort Subite, and other images from evenings downtown. 

Wednesday, January 15, 2025

Some (belated) resolutions

I'm not normally one for resolutions, but I'm also not totally sure what normal means yet. Now that I'm finally free from the shackles of fertility treatments, I'm trying to wrap my head around what to make of myself and my time, at least before we have cash on hand to make something of those embryos. So here are some ideas for 2025:
  1. Resume silks and get back into choreography-performing shape
  2. Run some more competitive 5k's and get that cholesterol lower
  3. Revive the Bay Area Bucket List (thrown together at the start of 2024) to make the most of whatever time is left in California
  4. Return to regularly hosting folks at our home, kicking off with chandeleur in just a couple of weeks
  5. Travel more:
    1. Hong Kong in February
    2. New Jersey & PEI in June
    3. Los Angeles?
    4. Seattle?
    5. Milan 2026 - nab some Olympics tickets
    6. France around Thanksgiving or Feb. 2026 while in town for the Olympics?
  6. Pick back up the pace at work, starting with a long-overdue trip to our Texas office
  7. Trim down my well-overgrown tea collection (now that I'm finally allowed more than one caffeinated drink per day) from the current selection of 21 black teas, 1 white tea, 1 green tea, 1 herbal tea, 2 oolongs, 1 pouchong, 1 hojicha, 1 golden matcha, and 10 rooibos. 🙈
  8. Consider resurrecting the Christmas card tradition? The jury's still out on this one...
Not sure if I'll regret putting myself on the record on these, but I hope this is the first step to becoming a fully realized person once more.

Monday, January 13, 2025

A fresh start

2025: a new year with so much potential. A full quarter century since my nearly-teenaged self rung in a new millennium to the ball drop in Times Square and the Y2K bug failed to materialize. More than anything, I'm excited for what this year won't be: a fertility year. Nope, my biological clock has been neatly tucked in a freezer. Ovarian reserve - what ovarian reserve? Any of my remaining eggs missed their shot. No, instead of being a disappointingly unproductive fertility factory, I can go back to actually being me: a circus artist; a hostess of board games and social events; a renewed runner; a world traveler; a high-value OG Neuralinker; a caffeinated tea connoisseur; and now, a (knock on wood) future mom.

Enjoying the holidays in the Bay, finally freed from the shackles of fertility treatments and figuring out how to just be me.

2024 wasn't all bad, either. I ran my first 5k race since high school. I got my first US patent! I went to the Olympics for the very first time, in Paris no less. I final mostly figured out how the nonsensical American health care system works. I got over a childhood phobia of blood draws. I got to be a part of the team that took Neuralink over the finish line into human users. And I made fourteen (or fifteen) genetically normal embryos.

You read that right: since my last update, we got news. So much news. That failed fifth cycle where nearly all the embryos had to be re-biopsied? Turned out all re-biopsied embryos were genetically normal: two girls and a boy. So, though they are unlikely to successfully implant, they're back-ups in the bank.

Feeling mixed emotions over learning all three of the destroyed embryos from our fifth cycle were genetically perfect.

And that seventh and final egg retrieval? We got SEVEN embryos - what a way to finish out the fertility journey. Genetic results came back a few days ago: three abnormal, three normal (all girls), and - get this - one more laboratory accident, something that occurs in less than 1% of samples handled at the new lab we switched to. That final embryo will also have to undergo a drastically damaging re-biopsy for us to learn its sex and chromosomal state. As one of the two day-5 embryos from our final cycle, it's statistically most likely to be normal.

The amazing news? We pulled off three cycles in a row with at least three genetically normal embryos per cycle! Including five day-5 embryos, something we never saw in our first four cycles. And, across all three cycles this fall, seven of the nine euploids were female! Less amazing (besides the fact that the first of these aforementioned cycles' embryos aren't exactly usable): we're still not done with embryo testing. Another embryo returned "no result" even with our new fancier lab, so we have to once more endure a highly destructive embryo re-biopsy to potentially learn we'd had a perfectly good embryo that a lazy embryologist destroyed through a poor biopsy on their first go.

I'm pretty salty about our luck: of twenty-three total cryopreserved embryos, we experienced four "no calls", a rate of over 17% whereas the national average is a mere 2%. Something's fishy in our clinic's embryology department. But when all is said and done, we have six not-rebiopsied euploid girls and four not-rebiopsied euploid boys. The collection includes one 6AA-scored embryo of each sex, and three day-5 3AB embryos (two girls and a boy). Not too shabby. Most importantly, all we could possibly need.

So in 2025, I get to just be me.