Thursday, May 25, 2023

What a day!

Years in the making, and we've got not one but new major announcements today. Cheers to some major life milestones!

Clinical trials, here we come!

Goodbye, US Immigration!

Sunday, May 21, 2023

Big Plans

This was a week for seeing plans finally start to come together.

Even nature's been turning our way, though with a whole lot more rain than I've ever seen before in a California May.

On Wednesday, Nicolas aced his nationality interview. The officer formally recommended him for naturalization! He even remembered the name of our national anthem, consistently one of the toughest questions during our practice exam sessions and somehow the very first he got quizzed on. We should have stopped to celebrate, but we both had offices to run to so the festivities will have to wait until ceremony day.

Nicolas wore some appropriately festive shorts later that day during his company outing in Alameda.

Our heads were still spinning from the day prior, when we finally got the green light to bring James here for the summer. No, we don't have an adoption date. He's not even our foster kid yet. The administrative quagmire continues, but James's legal guardian has given him the right to travel for up to 30 days at a time, with no minimum wait time between trips, during his summer vacation. So guess who's going on two back-to-back 30-day trips to California with 13 hours back in Fargo in between? (It's cool, we'll just casually performatively jet James back and forth across the country. I'm sure that's totally in a child's - and the planet's - best interests.)

Boy, do we have plans, especially a furry one that James has named Lily.

Meet Lily, our new puppy.
Insanely low-res pix of Lily's mom, Snow White. Lily was part of this pretty lady's very first litter. Before becoming a momma, Snow White weighed in at just 27 pounds. Her shoulder height is 18".
And Lily's dad, Firefly. A total sweetheart who measures just 16.5" (shoulder height) and weighs 22 pounds.

Context: back in March, on our first evening alone with James, his very first question for us whether we could get a dog. And not just any sort, a golden retriever. We half-way saw this coming: one of the top few things James's profile said he wanted in a family was a dog. Really, we may have brought this on ourselves. But we knew enough of James's backstory to know this request wasn't just because he'd seen some dogs on TV or at a park and thought they were cute. As James tells it, he was raised as an only child alongside a golden, adopted at the same time as him, who was his best friend. His first golden had just passed, and he and his mom had adopted his new puppy, when his mom fell ill. This led to a cascade of sadness starting with surrendering the pup, followed by losing his mom, and ending with him in foster care. Knowing all that, "no" wasn't really an option, was it?

How were we going to fit a golden into a 2-bed/2-bath condo already populated by 3 sassy cats? About a zillion dog listings, phone calls, and shelter visits later, we stumbled across the miniature golden retriever, a mix that's been bred for about the past 15 years by a handful of breeders across the US. Miniature goldens are a cross of the golden retriever breed with mini poodle and the Cavalier King Charles spaniel. They've been specially selected to resemble goldens in both look and temperament, but end up about half the size. A couple family calls with a breeder in Ohio who had recent litters, and James had picked his new pup. Problem solved, Venmo transaction complete.

It all sounds like a lot at once, a kid and a puppy, but they go hand-in-hand. Point 1: the moment James will need his pup the most is when he's first arrived. Point 2: this gives James something to anticipate that, unlike a lot of the other prospects of a move from North Dakota to California, doesn't have an element of unnerving uncertainty. Point 3: at a moment when these foster placement proceedings drag out longer and longer, adopting a pup already give James something concrete to show him just how committed we are to bringing him out here.

But wait! Don't let the dog tangent distract us from the rest of the non-canine plans! James has got big plans for this summer:
  • We'll be kicking things off with San Francisco Pride🌈✨.
  • A week later we'll be taking him down to LA to hit up all the major sites - Hollywood sign🎥, Grauman's Chinese Theater🍿, Venice Beach🌴, etc. - plus he'll get to meet Ryan and Megan.
  • The week after that, my parents will arrive bearing our new fluffy friend🐕, who'll be delivered to them the day prior from the Ohio-based breeder.
  • After the week with the Repak family comes James's week of aerial summer day camp🤸, which I still can't quite believe he signed up for. Here's hoping he doesn't regret it, and comes out a week later with some new local friends. (Circus kids are the best.)
  • We've got tickets to an A's/Giants game⚾ with Jake and Sarah.
  • There's camping on Angel Island🏕️ just a few days later.
  • Finally, a Boy George & Berlin concert🎶 is on the agenda.
  • Between the rest, I'll be doing backbends to get his interstate foster placement approved before the end of this action-packed summer.
The only thing left to do is brace myself for one thoroughly unimpressed teen!😂 Just 34 more days, but who's counting?😉